We had 2 minivans. The first one was terrible to the point of being unsafe in even light snow on the road. The second one was an all
wheel drive Toyota Sienna. We had a harrowing experience at night on the way to our northern MI ski cabin where despite AWD and good all-season tires the Sienna couldn’t keep traction on a typical snowy stretch of freeway. We didn’t just feel unsafe, we truly were not safe- a very scary situation on a stretch of road with no exits, no turnouts and no clear shoulder to pull off. We make that trip all the time which is why we opted for the AWD van in the first place. Lake effect Snowstorms pop up unexpectedly all the time up there. When the Sienna lease expired, we chose a vehicle that would do far better in those types of conditions. And it has, it’s been the best and safest family hauler we’ve ever owned by far. We can also tow with it which fits our lifestyle as well.
Any minivan or any other mid sized car would annihilate a motorcycle, Smart Car, etc. Those are unsafe on any roads under any circumstances.
As far as macho, this is my wife’s vehicle and she chose it herself. When we got to the cabin that one scary night she said “I’m done with minivans, I’m getting an SUV.”
Lastly, I see the causes and effects of motor vehicle collisions every day in my line of work. 30 years in that world has shaped my viewpoints on what types of vehicles we will entrust the safety of our kids to.
It’s easy for people to be preachy and high minded about this kind of stuff when they don’t consider any perspective but their own, which is often pretty myopic.