Without getting into the details (because I do not want to embarrass the school, the player or her parents) I would like to get some opinions on how to handle a situation that I have unwilling been placed into.
Currently, I am the head coach of a varsity level sports team. I have held this position for a couple of years now. This past Monday, at a meeting after a team practice, I was told that the parents of one of the players on my team (a female) have requested that she be allowed to change into her equipment and uniform in the same locker room with the rest of her teammates (all males).
I told those present at the meeting, that this is something that I am not comfortable in doing. I asked why and was told that the girl and her parents feel that she is missing out on "team bonding" and "just feeling part of the team".
I explained to those at the meeting that the rules of the national governing body for the sport has already established rules in place for who can and can't be in a locker room. In fact, none of the coaching staff is allowed to be in the locker room one on one with one of players without a 3rd party being present. They said that there was nothing in the rules that they saw that would prevent what the girl and her parents were asking for.
I again told them that I would not be comfortable with having high school age boys and girls changing clothes in the same locker room at the same time. They told me that they didn't want to become a story on the local or national news over their decision. I told them that I needed to have a couple of days to think it through and I'd let them know of mu decision next week.
I just don't think that I can let that happen. It goes against everything that I believe in. I think that they are worried with all of the "woke" issues that we see daily on the news that they are truly afraid of saying no to the girl and her parents. As of right now (and I seriously doubt that I will change my mind) I can't agree with the request and I am fully ready to step down from being the head coach of the team. What are your opinions?
Currently, I am the head coach of a varsity level sports team. I have held this position for a couple of years now. This past Monday, at a meeting after a team practice, I was told that the parents of one of the players on my team (a female) have requested that she be allowed to change into her equipment and uniform in the same locker room with the rest of her teammates (all males).
I told those present at the meeting, that this is something that I am not comfortable in doing. I asked why and was told that the girl and her parents feel that she is missing out on "team bonding" and "just feeling part of the team".
I explained to those at the meeting that the rules of the national governing body for the sport has already established rules in place for who can and can't be in a locker room. In fact, none of the coaching staff is allowed to be in the locker room one on one with one of players without a 3rd party being present. They said that there was nothing in the rules that they saw that would prevent what the girl and her parents were asking for.
I again told them that I would not be comfortable with having high school age boys and girls changing clothes in the same locker room at the same time. They told me that they didn't want to become a story on the local or national news over their decision. I told them that I needed to have a couple of days to think it through and I'd let them know of mu decision next week.
I just don't think that I can let that happen. It goes against everything that I believe in. I think that they are worried with all of the "woke" issues that we see daily on the news that they are truly afraid of saying no to the girl and her parents. As of right now (and I seriously doubt that I will change my mind) I can't agree with the request and I am fully ready to step down from being the head coach of the team. What are your opinions?