But being "out of the house" isn't what everybody does 24/7. I'd rather entertain than go out occasionally.
If you're rating cities for best places to live....housing cost....the biggest item in the cost of living, IS a major determinant, probably miles ahead of anything else. I can have my 3,000 sq. ft. home in Wexford for half of a 1,200 sq. ft. home in NYC or SF. So I can have nice digs AND go out a lot.
You can, but other people would rather have a smaller home/apartment in NY or SF in exchange for living in those places, since they are considered to be more desirable.