In my opinion we should be better internationally on the Mens and Womens side.
One of the reasons I am excited for the combined North America - South America tournament next year is that I really think that one of the things that holds the US back in international play is the overwhelming lack of quality in CONCACAF. Other than Mexico and Costa Rica the US is typically miles and miles ahead of the rest of the field. And while playing countries like Germany and the Netherlands in friendlies is great, the intensity level and the quality of play just don't rise up in a friendly the same way they do in a world cup qualifier or should (but don't for the US) in the confederation championship tournament.
To see what I am saying, look at the US's recent results against the other teams playing in the Copa Oro. While Mexico leads the all time series against the US, over the last 15 years it's actually 13-5-5 (all records listed in the traditional soccer style of wins-draws- losses) in favor of the US. The series with Costa Rica is 13-5-13 all time, and it's pretty close to even recently too. Now lets look at the rest of the field.
Against El Salvador the US is 17-4-0 all time. El Salvador has never beaten the US.
Against Haiti the US is 3-2-0 since 1976 (we really don't play them often).
Against Guatemala, Guatemala actually won the first three times the teams played. Since then the US is 14-6-0 against them.
Against Honduras the US is 12-1-2 since 2002.
Against Jamaica the US is 13-8-1 all time. That's a lot of ties, but it's still only one Jamaica win in 22 games.
Against Cuba the US is 8-1-1 all time, and the Cuba win was in 1947.
Against Canada the US is 11-5-0 since 1991.
Against Panama the US is 11-3-1 all time.
Against Trinidad and Tobago the US is 17-3-3 all time and 11-1-1 since 1994.
So add up all those "all time"s and "since"s and you get that in those 137 games the US has won 100, tied 31 and lost 6 of them. The fact is that the minnows of CONCACAF don't challenge the US (or Mexico for that matter) on any sort of regular basis. And it's hard to get better when you are generally so much better than your opponents.
By the way, great comeback tonight for T&T against Mexico. From 2-0 down to 3-2 up in the span of about 12 minutes. Now lets see if they can hold on.