I am in my 50's.....can I ask any of you guys say between 45-60 (or older)?
1) Did you play sports as a kid?
2) Did you play on a traveling league?
3) Did your parents attend every game/match/meet?
4) Did your parents attend every practice??
I am not getting this parental devotion of every aching free moment that they have to be with their kids. That didn't happen in my generation. Sometimes the parents would show up to games, when you got into High School and the games counted more, maybe. Practices? Rarely and it was usually that pain in the ass dad who was completely overbearing and thought his son was the next Pete Rose or Dan Marino.
I don't think this is particularly healthy. Kids and parents need some sort of separation. And here's a clue mommy and daddy, while your kid is special to you, he may not be special in his sport. So let him be. He doesn't need you there. Well now, maybe he does because we have created this overwhelming expectations that the parents lives are all and only about their children and nothing else. We inflate these kids, spoil them to no end, and then when faced in the real world, they have no sense when something doesn't go there way or there is nobody to tell them "they are the best" after they fail at something.
We have created a nation of basically.....sawfties.............selfish kids, overwrought parents. My god, working the work week is hard enough then having to pile in a car and drive to Indianapolis for the weekend to play a couple of softball games. It is also ironic, America's First Sport (aka Football) has some camps, but don't have these manufactured teams (well I guess 7on7's) but not like these other sports who likely won't give out scholarships. I understand some like hockey a bit, because you have to find like opponents, AAU basketball and baseball maybe, but these ordinary neighbor kids, or worse these "Cheer" teams and stuff.....man, have your kids enjoy summer, spend money on a pool membership (or put one in yourself) and have a nice 10 day vacation on a beach. You and your kids will enjoy it much more and it will be much more rewarding. Little Johnny can play 3rd base for the local VFW sponsored Little League team, ride his bike to and from practice and games. You will be richer for it, he will be happier in the end. If he bats like .600 with a few HR's, or throws a few no hitters, trust me a traveling team will find him.
We are just creating such unrealistic expectations for these kids, no wonder the drop off in participation between 13 and 16 years old is so precipitous. And here's the biggest memo to parents......DON'T DO THIS FOR YOUR EGO. Here endeth the message.