I would think the one thing that most waiters and waitresses would agree on is that in general they would rather serve a group of six guys drinking beer and eating wings while the game is on as opposed to six ladies from some book club. First of all those ladies will request separate checks....If that is not doable they will itemize every morsel of food and ever ounce of liquid down to the penny and maybe if they are feeling generous might come close to a 20% tip to the penny. You know they all have change purses and will be able to do that....The guys on the other hand might have the equivalent of two drafts and a dozen wings each which averages out to about 27 bucks a pop. Some may owe more and some may owe less.....They all throw two twenties each on the table and are on their way....Aside from the significantly better tip the odds are the six dudes were significantly less pains in the ass than the six ladies during their server encounter.... My court ordered sexist post of the day requirement has been fulfilled.
OT: Tipping
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Only thing missing from this one is you saying that you tip the waitress more if she is hot.
well, there is a reason bars have hot bartenders and it's not because they are good at switching out empty kegs at the end of the night..Only thing missing from this one is you saying that you tip the waitress more if she is hot.
I tip pretty much everyone.
Recent trip:
- Tipped the hotel shuttle driver even though I carried my own bag on and off. Dude was an older guy and I felt bad.
- Always leave something for hotel cleaners, except in the rare instances when the room wasn't very clean.
- Bartenders or wait staff, look at the check and multiply by .2 (easy math) then adjust based on whether service was good or bad. So I'm usually always over 20% when basing off the total before tax.
- We went to a little mom and pop diner for lunch. It was great, service was great, and bill for 2 of us was under $19. I gave them $25.
- But I do have an issue tipping 20% or more on really expensive dinners. I'll usually gravitate lower in the 15-18%. Does the woman at the mom and pop diner do less work than the waitress in the expensive restaurant?
Take out, I usually tip a few bucks on a small order and $5 or $10 on a larger order.
Also tip mail carrier and garbage men.
Tip anyone delivering large items into the home. Don't tip Amazon, Fedex or UPS.
Recent trip:
- Tipped the hotel shuttle driver even though I carried my own bag on and off. Dude was an older guy and I felt bad.
- Always leave something for hotel cleaners, except in the rare instances when the room wasn't very clean.
- Bartenders or wait staff, look at the check and multiply by .2 (easy math) then adjust based on whether service was good or bad. So I'm usually always over 20% when basing off the total before tax.
- We went to a little mom and pop diner for lunch. It was great, service was great, and bill for 2 of us was under $19. I gave them $25.
- But I do have an issue tipping 20% or more on really expensive dinners. I'll usually gravitate lower in the 15-18%. Does the woman at the mom and pop diner do less work than the waitress in the expensive restaurant?
Take out, I usually tip a few bucks on a small order and $5 or $10 on a larger order.
Also tip mail carrier and garbage men.
Tip anyone delivering large items into the home. Don't tip Amazon, Fedex or UPS.
I tip every where I go and it's at least 20%. However, I don't like the places that stick you with a mandatory 20% service charge irrespective of how many are in your group. What I noticed about those places is that the service can be lackluster, poor or just plain bad because they already know they're guaranteed the 20%.
Plus - you have to be aware of built in gratuities and then they try sneak in an additional tip. I had that happen to me twice, the bar waitress just showed me the bottom line with the tip line open. I was writing in an additional tip when one of my boys told me...they already hit us for 20%.
Plus - you have to be aware of built in gratuities and then they try sneak in an additional tip. I had that happen to me twice, the bar waitress just showed me the bottom line with the tip line open. I was writing in an additional tip when one of my boys told me...they already hit us for 20%.
There was a viral post about a woman being given the option to tip when buying her wedding dress. Shouldn't they just pay her a commission? I hate always getting the tip option at places like Subway. They are paid a salary or hourly. Waitresses and hair cutters (in many cases) are not.
pittdan77
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I like to leave a six pack for the garbage men at Christmas. They seem to appreciate it because I never get charged for extra.
pittdan77
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Oh yeah. For sure. But it's not like anything about most of the garbage haulers in my neck of the woods are safe to begin with.
There is no tipping culture in NZ. People who travel to the US from here get really stressed out about tipping. I get asked for advice about it all the time.
Here I do tip delivery drivers, barber, bartender, wait staff, taxi. It is not expected and it is usually well appreciated.
Here I do tip delivery drivers, barber, bartender, wait staff, taxi. It is not expected and it is usually well appreciated.
So your saying that you gave the parlor girl the tip and a tip?
we hold these truths to be self-evident...Only thing missing from this one is you saying that you tip the waitress more if she is hot.
That is why I tip the traditionally non tipped workers, I mean everyone else is getting a tip.
Not judging, but are you saying this so that the server can avoid paying taxes or does the company take some of it if you use a card?
I bartended while in grad school. We made $2.13/hour because we were eligible to receive tips. We were told to claim ~10% of our sales as tips at the end of our night in order to not set off a red flag to be investigated. Tips were usually 15%-20% of the bill, so you were able to make more money that wasn’t taxed. But if they paid the tip on the credit card, all of it had to be reported.
Not as many people paid with a card in the mid 1990s.
I bartended while in grad school. We made $2.13/hour because we were eligible to receive tips. We were told to claim ~10% of our sales as tips at the end of our night in order to not set off a red flag to be investigated. Tips were usually 15%-20% of the bill, so you were able to make more money that wasn’t taxed. But if they paid the tip on the credit card, all of it had to be reported.
Not as many people paid with a card in the mid 1990s.
All the more reason not to tip them Lots of people work hard. Should I tip the guy at the deli counter so he doesn’t spit on my meat? Or the gal at the cake counter who she doesn’t spit on my cake Or the dude at the sheets so they don’t do something to the food in the store. Guess it says a lot about the degeneracy in our society that someone would to that and others would essentially condone that but then it’s not surprising. We have a degenerate pedophile as the leader of the free world
and also not making the traditionally significantly lower wages than the tipped workers are...you could be screwing some kid making 5 bucks an hour to tip someone making 18 bucks an hour...
You mean back in the day when they actually provided room service every day. Sure.
You decide, the ones I am talking about are not getting rich.
(That is a universal "You", not you personally)
I think this is most people’s issue now, however. It’s not the tipping at the places where it’s been typical to tip, it’s tipping at all the other places, and always having it in your face every time you pay for something. like you said “go pick up your own takeout“ - I pick up my own take out ALL THE TIME and every single time I’m asked to tip. Either at the restaurant, or on the website ahead of time while I am paying.
I generously tip in sit-down restaurants, bars, my hair cut place, etc. AFTER the service is received, and the amount is usually based on some degree of how good of a job they did.
I do not like feeling pressured to tip when getting take out or before I even receive the service, and have no idea how good or bad said service was.
Yes but think about it. They are still preparing your meal and packaging it. But moreso to the point, if they are getting paid at some low wage with some expectation of 10-20% tips per check, then you are screwing these folks.
the one you are talking about "the non tipped" may not be rich but they legally cannot make less than minimum wage like the ones you stated you do not tip can...
What’s worse about this is people are putting miles on their own cars to drive you your own food. So it’s a lot worse than not tipping a server.
But I’ll say this, we may think that tipping is simply what you do…but it’s also a cultural thing. So people who don’t tip aren’t necessarily bad people. My wife and I were in the service industry in our younger days and all my kids have been….and generally speaking, Indians, English and African Americans don’t tip. There are certainly exceptions but by and large that’s the case. My daughter dated an English guy for a couple years and they fought all the time because he and his friends/family refused to tip. It’s just not something they do. It’s an American thing.
yep, french people too, cheap-ass culture.. you wait on people from france, be happy they even pay the bill.
Uber Eats is also just a terrible service. Extremely expensive. My food never arrived hot. Often it is mashed together. Twice it was stolen, once it took the driver over an hour to deliver my food, he drove right by my apartment and "canceled" the order when he was 100 yards away. By that time, everything else was closed and I couldn't get food from anywhere. Uber's remedy was to refund my order price. That's it. No coupon to try again, nothing for ruining my entire night.
When I told them I would never use them again unless they gave me something - anything - to compensate me for missing a meal, not just the value of the food, they basically hit me with the shrug emoji. Completely awful app and terrible company. I use Lyft now (and just pick up my own food if I order out).
I actually can’t remember if I tipped when I was in France. I hope I didn’t. Lol. Actually, I hope it did. It’s just the right thing to do. But then again, my culture and my upbringing ingrained that in me.
I tip toward the upper end of what has been described in this thread. Always 20% at dinner, my barber gets about 33%, 10% for take-out, minimum $1 per drink at the bar (even for non-alcoholic drinks), etc. I was never really annoyed about it but tip proliferation seems to have exploded post-2020. I'm seeing options to tip absolutely everywhere now and it's making me colder toward the idea of tipping in general, even to people I was normally very generous to. Not saying that I have gone down that road, it's just soured my mentality.
My main problem with tipping is that tippers subsidize the non-tippers by paying more for labor on the same experience. The labor wouldn't exist without the tipper. So the non-tippers get a service they didn't pay for. And there's basically no enforcement against non-tippers. They don't even guilt trip themselves since they think they're owed the service via their payment of the bill. I'd rather just get rid of the entire tipping structure so that tippers and non-tippers are paying the same amount for service. If I'm already paying an extra 10-33%, I doubt any increase would be worse for me and the cheapskates who can't afford the service without my help can feel free to stay away.
if you showered more than once a month, you probably stood out from most of the locals in France..
My last vacation (Hard Rock Orlando) in November had daily maid service. They just resumed it at some point in 2023, because my trips there in 20, 21 & 22 didn't have it.
The waiters in France are insulted by you if you tip them. They are also insulted by you if you don't tip them.
I ask many servers here in Hilton Head if they prefer cash.
Most say it doesn’t matter. Surprises me actually.
Worked at Steak N Ale in early 70’s. Having cash was amazing.
pittdan77
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When I was in Europe, it was explained that if you wanted to tip you left the equivalent to a dollar or a euro or whatever the currency is in that country. Not as a form of pay, like it is here, but as a sign of appreciation and nothing more. Tipping isn't really a thing in most countries.
Probably because most countries pay their servers working wages.
A friend of mine was divorced and had his kids for the day of one of their birthdays. The child said that he had to bring a snack to school for his birthday to share with the other students. He did not have a snack ready so he gave him a dollar to give to each student and for good measure he gave him 5 dollars for the teacher.
Was that wrong?
Was that wrong?
I once tipped 20% at a sandwich shop when I paid. I ended up waiting over 45 minutes and didn’t get my food. Finally told someone and then waited another fifteen for it to be prepared. I just don’t tip there anymore.
This is why I dont understand being given the option to tip at places where you order at a counter, pay, and take the food to go. You are being asked to tip before the order has even begun to get processed. You can tip them $100 and then they make your food, give it to you, and then punch you in the face if they want and they will still get your tip.
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